Even Though It’s Dangerous? (Life As We Speak)
That question can pop up in situations where the person who asks that, attempts to alert the listener, who is supposed to hear it. Any alert by itself is fine in the big picture, for often it can alert us and accelerate our senses for better operation within a specific situation; however, the word ‘dangerous’ has profound impact upon our subconscious mind and life.
The word ‘dangerous’ can easily be replaced with ‘not safe’ and this creates a better and more mellow situation. When we hear ‘even though it is dangerous?’, we will probably remember the last word vividly and place a decision based upon that. If this question is rephrased into ‘Even if it is not that safe?’ the listener will operate upon the vibration of the word ‘Safe’ and will make choices built upon the idea of safety.
When you hear ‘dangerous’, ‘dangerous’, ‘dangerous’ many times from different people on different occasions, at different places, in different phrases, you build a very joyless picture about the world and its spectacular activities. (Please note the use of the word joyless and not gloomy.)
So the expression: ‘Not safe’ is probably a better way to alert someone, helping him or her to act and decide upon the essence of the term ‘Safe’. Direct the person towards what you would like him or her to encounter, in this case safety would be that aim. Use terms such as: ‘It is still not safe.’, ‘We can make it much safer.’, ‘It is safer that way.’ or ‘Much safer’.
This is very vital, especially towards kids, for this is the time when they assemble their own puzzle of beliefs about life and existence. The more you use the word safe and provide statements that support a safe universe, safe activities and experiences, the more life-enjoyable experiences the person will have.
The person creates a tendency towards safety, trust, and excitement with the good feeling of experiencing freely what we call life. In the case that the upcoming activity is not a real-life threat, we may use one of the following statements in order to plant some bravery and courage in our friend’s mind ‘Go for it.’, ‘You are brave after all.’, ‘Courage can overcome anything.’ or ‘I am so proud of you that you are willing to attempt that.’.
All those statements guide the other person towards thinking with great focus and intensity upon the completion of the new task and the successful feelings and joy that come with it. He or she will feel that they can do much more and will set their minds upon new heights of achievement.
The word ‘danger’ had better be set aside when we speak, for danger is an observation of another person and originates from unpleasant experiences that have probably happened previously in one’s mind or life or that have been seen through a media channel. ‘Unsafe’ may be the term to use for those situations from now on.
What we consider as unsafe can also be the greatest thrill and excitement for some people, and therefore, we had better remember that most of the time, our definitions apply purely to us individually. When we use the term ‘unsafe’, uncertainty may be generated and this may lead us towards minimum activities and experiences.
Unsafe is by far a better and more constructive option to utilise; yet, do remember to lead yourself and others towards safety with terms such as ‘Is it safe?’ or ‘Are you positive that it is safe?’. This grants higher probability for the entire situation to be looked at as a potential safe one.
THE PERSON WHO HOLDS LOVE WITHIN HIS OR HER SYSTEM ENJOYS LIFE GREATLY AND FREELY. WHETHER YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE CAPABLE OF SOMETHING OR NOT, YOU ARE RIGHT; IT IS THE THOUGHT THAT GIVES VALIDITY TO YOUR ABILITIES.
From: Life As We Speak by Danny Oceans